I get a lot of people asking me “How do I find more motivation?” I think like sex, motivation is not something that can be forced. Most clench teeth and knuckles, thinking they just need to do it. Get motivated! Then when they can’t or don’t “find it”, they become more frustrated and of course less motivated. This leads to internalization and believing they lack ability. Most tie ability to worth so now they believe they are less than.
Motivation is not an intellectual thing. It’s a feeling thing, involves chemistry not logic. So again, like sex, the focus should be on creating mood / environment and letting it happen organically. Instead of forcing it and getting pissed when it doesn't happen.
There are two parts to creating a hot and steamy motivation environment.
One is in physical space:
If you grind at work seventy hours a week and come home to a pig sty, it may be difficult to pick up a pen, brush, barbell, or whatever you are seeking motivation for. You may be physically exhausted and there may be a million other things on your mind before you can get to building this piece of your life. Also falling under the physical space category, sleep, water, food. The basics. Sleep well. Stay hydrated. Eat real food.
Two, mental space:
It’s nearly impossible to orgasm when you have high anxiety, correct? Stress also kills motivation. So instead of focusing on motivating yourself, focus on de-stressing yourself first. Maybe it means cutting hours at work, creating boundaries with friends, or just taking an hour a day for you and only you. Whatever it takes to carry less anxiety and be able to dream clearly while you’re awake.
Those are the fundamentals.
Now where you place yourself is your call, depending on where you get in the mood the most. And that can change. Sometimes, I have to be in a busy coffee shop to get any writing done. Other times, I need to be home alone in front of my computer with cold air blasting my face. So find your sweet spot. If you’re reading this and thinking “Well, I can’t find motivation to create space to find motivation”, then it’s not about motivation. It’s about making a choice and why you can’t make it. Usually it’s fear. If I was to guess, fear of failure.
We are all made to build and create and to challenge ourselves. Most of us mute that by getting buried in the daily grind and not giving ourselves the space for that to happen. Growth is all about space. What many don’t know is that they can create it themselves.
- Angry
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